This Page is Dedicated to Eugene
Oh, to be a fly on the wall :-)
He says.........She says.........they fall in love.
They make a commitment to each other.
What does this mean?
"NATURE PAIRS US
WITH SOMEBODY
WHO
STIRS UP
OUR WORST FEAR
IN ORDER TO ALTER
OUR
MOST RIGID DEFENSE"
Different people have different interpretations of what it means to make a commitment in relationship.
Unfortunately most couples "in love" make a commitment to their partner without defining what the "commitment" means.
To one person it may mean I will not engage in sexual activity with another.
To another person it may mean I will not go out to dinner with another.
To another it may mean I will not have thoughts of another.
I have noticed that for most people
"making a commitment to another"
is a declaration of
"what they will not do"
as opposed to
"what they will do"
According to Webster's Dictionary
"Commitment......the act of committing"
"consignment ...as to prison"
"confinement...as to a hospital"
"a pledge or promise....an obligation"
by definition alone
no wonder so many
fear commitment in relationship.
The Western Tradition
is first to FALL in love;
Secondly, make commitments, promises
while under the blind spell of "infatuation"
Thirdly, get to know the other person.
Lastly, either build on the commitments made
or
for many
try to find civilized ways to end the commitment
but remain friends nonetheless.
It is always to be hoped that not too many
babies arrive in these early stages of relationship.
First we Fall, then we Confine, then we Consign.
This is commitment?
are entities unto themselves.
When considering making a commitment to another...
first ask yourself
Can I make the following commitment to myself?
I commit to closeness and independence.
I commit to full expression,
to telling the truth about everything,
including my feelings,
my thoughts
and my actions.
I commit to taking full responsibility for my life.
I commit to dispelling the "illusion"
that anyone else
causes my feelings and actions,
or is the source of my limitations.
I commit to my full creative expression,
and to inspiring the full expression of others.
I commit to not losing my "self"
in a relationship with another.
THE DEED IS DONE?
YOU HAVE MADE THE BIG
COMMITMENT?
AND YOU & YOUR PARTNER
have discussed and
AGREE ON WHAT THIS MEANS?
10 RULES FOR A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP
1) Never both be angry at the same time.
2) Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
3) If one of you "has" to win an argument, let it be your mate.
4) If you have to criticize do it lovingly.
5) Never bring up mistakes of the past.
6) Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
7) Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
8) At least once every day try to say one kind
or complimentary thing to your partner.
9) When you have done something wrong,
be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness.
10) It takes two to make a quarrel,
and the one in the wrong
is the one who does the most talking.
